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I’ve been going through a breakup this month….a breakup with a 20 year old habit. As I break up with the one – replete with the on-again and off-again qualities that we’ve all experienced around breaking up with people, I’m examining other old habits as well.

It really doesn’t matter what the habit is – it can be self-judgment, a particular view of or relationship with food/alcohol/caffeine, procrastination – it does not matter what form the habit takes. It isn’t necessarily a ‘negative’ or ‘unhealthy’ habit either – this is about examination of and opening up to ways that may serve our souls more deeply and allow us to serve the world more expansively.

What I’m loving about this process is the level of examination that is taking place. None of it goes as deeply as you may imagine – which is the beauty of this.

I arrived at this place, out of the blue really, but certainly while listening to my intuition. I noticed when I went to engage with this habit, somewhere around the end of January, my desire/motivation/attitude towards this behavior felt different to me. I’m a big ‘feeler’, you see, being a strong Empath (go here for more information on being an Empath https://energyintuit.wordpress.com/2014/03/29/empathy-vs-intuitive-or-psychic-empathy/)

What I began to do then, was to treat these shifted feelings as new friends and turn them over like fall leaves deserving much attention for their vibrancy and color. Simply observe them and then move on to new feelings that came with those and do the same.

I stayed out of analysis and judgment of me, my habit, my relationship to my habit – I merely observed it all as if I was getting to know a new person whom I knew nothing about.

As I really listened and watched, I learned that the absence of this habit – or the prospect of its absence, allowed for some beautiful spaces in my life and being to allow other things to take root. To allow other emotions, other high-vibrational states of being and feeling good, room for other intuitive messages to pop through.

I read recently that if we aren’t losing friends then we aren’t growing. I would re-frame it to say that if we aren’t changing our relationships to friends, habits, the world then we aren’t growing. We aren’t meant to stay in stagnant relationship to anything or anyone – we are meant to grow and change and evolve as spirits in human bodies.

You might examine a breakup with an old way for yourself. Get quiet, tune into your intuition and see what comes up in your life as wanting attention. It may be that some of your ways are up for transformation vs. an ending. Check it out. Enjoy the process!


Lotus Branding


It was a series of intuitive flashes that brought this belly tattoo to life. A desire to baptize-as-beautiful some bodily damage rendered during child bearing; a passion for honoring my creative center mixed with some celebration of the deep call to service through energetic healing–all of these left me facing a consult with a tattoo artist to run through options of how to make manifest all of this – on my belly.

Some irony here is that I’ve never wanted a tattoo. I’d not connected with any imagery that I could picture being branded upon my body for the rest of my life.

Artist: “I won’t touch or tattoo over these areas of your abdomen for these reasons. Typically this is how a tattoo over a much-less affected area would go…and your areas are profoundly affected. “ Me, to Artist, “Is there a way to make something work? What can you do?” Then I got to witness Artist’s energy start to bubble and ping….”Well, I can incorporate the scarring as negative space for some Japanese finger waves, like this…” he takes me to examples of images… “Then a lotus could emerge from it, something like this..”

Me, “Sold. How much can I put down today as a deposit?” I left ten minutes later with a future, 5-hour appointment booked.

Between this and my scheduled appointment, I did ask a few people about their tattoo stories and experiences. If they relayed to me how much pain may be involved, I didn’t hear it. I heard things like, “it feels like a series of bee stings and gets more annoying over time more than anything…”

Appointment day arrived and I posted for my appointment. After a brief review of the artwork and some prepping of my belly, we got started. First needles down, my response is, “Um, that hurts. It feels like an exacto knife going into my skin. Forgo any test areas – just keep rolling through.”

I called a mental/spiritual meeting with all of my Guides/Guidance system. I asked my body to release DMT, and any all chemicals/neurotransmitters and energies to reduce pain, reduce blood pressure and increase my tolerance for this experience. I asked for the healers that I channel to flow as much through me and to me as possible for this experience.

My Guides showed me that each needle down from Artist, infused my body with healing energy. I was being tortured artistically (of my own choosing) by a Healer. Ok, I agreed, this is good. But why so much pain? They began to stand around us fascinated. My Guides asked me if it felt like a cactus being rolled over my belly? Or a sander being applied to my skin? I could feel Guides and Angels stroking my hair and supporting me energetically, the whole time. Artist and I talked for the first hour or so. We discovered commonalities in our passions for education, community contacts and walking through the world in alternative ways. I reached a point of needing to ‘focus’ on pain reduction in ways other than conversation.

I found myself, as a frequent out-of-body traveler, unable to leave my body. Me to Artist, “I can leave my body quite easily. I’ve been doing it since age 7 that I can remember. I’m trying to do so and the pain of each needling commands me into my body. This call to Presence is unique and fascinating.” And off I went into my zone again for awhile.

I practiced Tonglen meditation for awhile. It’s a Tibetan Buddhist practice of breathing in pain, transmuting it and expelling less pain, essentially. It was less than effective in this case.

I turned to mantra, mentally. This did help and it took my perspective to a level of attention, that while still in the pain was also above the pain. I have no trouble existing at multiple levels of consciousness simultaneously, so this approach worked a bit. I was surfing the mantra of something around love, beauty, peace, no pain, etc. This started to get me to a borderline comfortable space (not much about this 5 hour foray could be described as comfortable), until of course, I began to feel like I was going into shock. I had begun to feel that I was leaving my body and also felt my hands, arms and feet chattering with cold. I was heady and feeling like I was loosing it or slipping into some version of shock. So dramatic sounding, I know! Me to Me, mentally, “We are not pulling this Drama here. I’m sure Artist knows CPR but I’ll be damned if this process is going to be interrupted by something like that. He probably won’t be able to finish this tattoo today if he has to do CPR on me.” Me to Artist, “OK. So I’m feeling really cold. Can you please turn up the temperature in here? “ Long pause while he looks at me and contemplates, “Ok.” Gloves come off, he disappears and reappears a few minutes later. My body warms and I stay out of that shock zone.

I begin to realize, that we are only about halfway through (2 hours in) by now. I’m trying to figure out how I’m going to make it through this. I ask for a break again and he looks at me funny – I tell him I really only want my headphones to try and listen to an audio book. Getting them and getting re-started, with narration in my ears, seems to work for a minute. I become acutely aware of the brightness of the lights and find a way to cover my eyes and begin with some yogic breathing/pranayama. I tried nadi shodhan breathing but to no avail. It involved just too much attention. I settled in with ujjayi breathing, a very natural state for me. Ujjayi breathing is best known by the loud, nasal type hissing that accompanies it – this sound is also called ajapa mantra. Ajapa mantra, also known as the ‘unspoken mantra’ serves three purposes, all of which felt critical to this process. It helps to slow the breath down, in order to focus awareness on the breath and to prevent your mind from wandering and finally to regulate the smooth flow of breath. I’d had a chat with Artist on whether breathing interfered with my directions to ‘stay still’ during the body art process. He said he can work with typical, diaphragmatic breathing. Well I knew I was going all deep and loud and filling my belly with this one. It was the ticket though, he’d had to deal in my mind. We never discussed it – I just got loud and rhythmic and he rolled right along with it. Whether my belly was distended or deflated with air, he did his thing. I initially tried for a deep, belly-filling breath before needles down – but realized that either direction worked to reduce the pain and settle into a flow with him.

Inspired by Maya Angelou, I recently swore off of cursing.   In reality it has been reduced while not completely eliminated. During this body art process I uttered only one curse word. I’m pretty proud of that fact. More so, I’m feeling pretty victorious and courageous. I’ve been told I now have ‘street cred’ for undergoing a 4+ hour tattoo on my belly as a first-piece-of-body-art. Not going for street cred, but for healing and personal expansion, I suppose street cred has its place in those processes.

Matt Stankis at Northside Tattoo in Wilmington, DE http://northsidetattoos.com/ is the consummate, body Artiste professional. He’d come highly recommended to me and my experience will perpetuate this high level recommendation.

Having been on steroids during one of my pregnancies, they wreaked havoc on my belly skin. Matt doesn’t tend to do scar work and has a particular approach for stretch marks. My case was something I don’t know that he’d seen before and I give him huge kudos for swiftly coming up with a way to artistically honor this process and part of my body for me.

All of my spiritual healing and guidance have served me well – I had very little redness from the get go and a swift healing process. Nine days out I am still peeling a bit and will post photos in the future. In the meantime, know that the verbal feedback is a whole slew of impressed beings with Matt Stankis’ artistry.

Angela Bixby is a professional psychic, medium and energy healer in Wilmington, Delaware. Her passion is teaching and coaching people through their own lotus openings as they grow their intuition.

Learn more about her here: www.energyintuit.com


Love, P.S.





I had the privilege of hearing Maya Angelou speak in 1993 at Bill Clinton’s Presidential Inauguration.  She is Love and Strength, incarnate.  RIP and enjoy your angel dance, dear One.



Every time I begin to write on love I cry. Who wouldn’t? The mere thought of love engulfing my heart and soul crack me wide open.

I told a colleague recently that I loved them. I tell clients often, that I love them. Isn’t the world a better place, for acknowledgement of LOVE without all of the perceived constraints? Why is it that so many, lay burdens on love….Expectations. Associated weights — with an expression of pure Joy. Pure Being. In Harmony with all that Is.

Love for me is the same as channeling the Divine. When I feel my heart and soul swell, I know I am in alignment with and channeling Divine Being.

Why then, won’t more people express and experience love?


We are the peace keepers

The fire burners

The soul stirrers.

Why not more?

More expression more often, more frequently, more vehemently.

I dare you.


At the center of everything is an energy, an immaterial material I’ll identify as love. -The Afterlife of Billy Fingers, as channeled and told by Annie Kagan

Buddha was not a Buddhist. Jesus was not a Christian.  Muhammad was not a Muslim.  They were teachers who taught Love.  Love was their religion.  -Unknown

Love is not something you are in it is something that you are. -David Icke


Many are asking me, how I distinguish between an Empath, a Healer, an Indigo and a Seer – lenses that we are picking up and looking through in a new program called Spiritual Spy Glass, which launched earlier in the month. The program has a rolling enrollment – meaning you can jump on at the beginning of each month. You can find more information on the program here: www.energyintuit.com/ssg . This post is the second in a series of four on the nuances of these sensitivities, these qualities at an intuitive level.

The Healer is an extension of the Empath http://wp.me/p2vm4l-8b . Many Empaths are Healers, not all Healers are Empaths. We feel and intuit others’ emotions through our gut – our second or sacral chakra. The Healer works a bit higher up, through their fourth chakra or heart chakra. All healing is the transmission of love. Our hands are governed by our heart chakra. Through the ages all religions have stories of hands on healing and the miracle of laying-on-of-hands, Jesus Christ being one of the most famous and infamous of healers. Many debates go on around his healing abilities – whether it was genetic, vs. channeling the Holy Spirit, vs. channeling Usui Reiki.

The Healer archetype has been around at least as long as Man has been. Currently we see this archetype in caring and nurturing professions–Physicians, Acupuncturists, Massage Therapists, Dentists, Counselors, etc. It seems that Reiki can be found fairly pervasively now too and hundreds of alternative energy healing modalities abound. Healers are found in all walks of life really. You may feel the healing nature of your lawyer, of a stranger who you sit next to on the subway or that from a toll taker on the turnpike. There are no ‘professional’ limits to the Healer.

As Healers we naturally and intentionally channel divine, healing energy. Healing someone from an ungrounded state, essentially pulling and giving of our own life-force energy or chi – is a big no-no. This is a fast way to illness and exhaustion. It’s important to realize and then act from a place of being a conduit, channel, vessel, or as Shamans would say act as an empty bone, to flow this energy through you to others.

One of the tricky parts – so many people walk around having no idea or a mild idea that they are a Healer and so may feel physically compromised, drained or tired as a result.

Indicators of the Healer archetype (if you have any of these you too may be a Healer):

  • If you are an Empath or check here: http://wp.me/p2vm4l-8b
  • You are near someone in distress or ill and you feel your hands or other parts of your body tingle
  • You feel peoples’ emotions in your heart both positively and negatively
  • People tell you they feel better being around and with you
  • You have a sense, thought, feeling that someone needs you and you reach out and find it to be true
  • You are asked for advice, often
  • You have been told that you have a sensitive system
  • You know you have a sensitive system based on how you react to food, drugs, chemicals, substances, etc.
  • You feel anxious
  • You naturally know what will make yourself and others feel better and it likely involves some form of grounding
  • You seem to hear the calls of those in need and feel them in your body
  • You have an interest in all things alternative, paranormal, supernatural
  • You seek medical attention for headaches, heart palpitations or other medical maladies which turn out to be un-diagnosable

If you know you are a healer and/or suspect that you are, begin to pay attention to your body and particularly your hands when you are in a caring or nurturing type situation. If you have or are experiencing anxiety or a strong desire to express – to run or move, to paint, to write, to sing, etc. – please do move and/or express. This is one of the best ways to clear what is a build of up healing energy inside of you.

We’re channels for this energy and if we’re unaware it can clog up our subtle energy body. Therefore expression, exercise, rest, time in nature, water and healthy foods along with salt baths can relieve some of this. Allowing healing and empathic energies to clog up our subtle energy bodies is akin to dirty oil in your engine or atherosclerosis in your body – keeping these channels clear will benefit our health.

As long as you are approaching the expression of this energy from a grounded place (go here for more information on grounding: http://wp.me/p2vm4l-6A) feel free to place your hands over your loved ones, pets or the earth and apply some healing to their/the situation! It really is this simple. Get grounded, set an intention that you are a vehicle for healing, check your ego at the door and apply your loving hands.

As a Healer you are becoming aware of these sensitivities for a reason. The world needs as many nurturing, healing people as it can get!

This will get you started in identifying and discerning whether you are a Healer and how to work with your sensitivities.   For more information sign up and tune in for this upcoming, free webinar entitled: The Heart of the Healer, 5/1/14 at 7pm EDT By opting into this email list — http://eepurl.com/QuXfL you’ll receive the free webinar log-in information and information about the upcoming webinars to be held in support of the Indigo and the Seer.

During the The Heart of the Healer I’ll cover more in-depth what it means to be a Healer, how to ground and flow healing energy and I’ll address healing through intention, prayer and meditation from a distance.

Disclaimer:   I am neither a medical professional nor a licensed mental health counselor. If you are experiencing problems with your emotions or unexplained physical discomfort please consult a medical, mental health or holistic practitioner attuned to Intuition and energy psychology. Diagnosis by written content on the internet is inadvisable and ill-advised.

Getting Unstuck


Everything is energy.  We know now that what appears solid, isn’t.  It’s merely more dense, slower moving atoms.

How often do you feel stuck in life?  Do you find yourself with impatience around elements of your life and relationships? One of the best antidotes for feeling stuck, sluggish and impatient is to move energy.  This is a great, proactive tool to create movement and step into the flow of life as well.  We can move energy within our bodies through exercise, pranayama (breath work), qi gong and meditation.  Externally, we can clean a closet, rearrange furniture, hang a different picture on the wall or feng shui a space in our lives.  Gardeners know this first hand with moving earth and planting new life.  So many enjoy that churn of energy in the soil.

When we clean out a closet for instance and discard/donate/recycle items that are no longer with purpose for us, we create space for new experiences as well as new stuff and its energy.

Often that feeling of stuckness, stagnancy is mirrored in our living space.  When was the last time you vacuumed under the couch?  Went through those boxes in your attic that have lived there for years?  I’m here to tell you people, no memory is too painful and no thing is too valuable for you to revisit its energy and its purpose in your life.

Do you ever walk through a place that feels warm and inviting?  How about sitting near a statue that feels cold and repellant?  So many people report kids and pets that prefer certain rooms in a house and/or avoid certain rooms – especially at night.  Adults feel it too and we tend to rationalize about this.  Is it a case of repellant spirits and energies in that room?  These spaces can be transformed by removing a piece of furniture, clearing out some of the belongings or rearranging them.  Psychometry is the art of divining energetic/psychic information from objects.  I challenge you to try this with the spaces, places and things in your home.

I challenge you to be with your space and your things in your life, in this fashion.  Sit with your stuff and be in your furniture and tune in to how you feel with it.  This will give you the energy signature of each space and piece.  From here you can feel and decide what to move, discard, clear or replace. Being in this action of moving energy will support your feeling less stuck or stagnant.  Close the loop on this process by sitting with the freshly cleared area and imagining white light filling the area.  Picture fresh air flowing through it and love settling in.  It really can be this simple. xo

Regaining Balance


This winter has held some deep calls for my family, to balance.  The Universe decided that this winter was the divine time to offer up a stone home on 8 acres, that I’ve been working on manifesting for us.  Intending for us a grounded home in nature, delivered more than I could have imagined (she winks, nods, tips proverbial hat thankfully to the Universe for that ‘more than’ delivery).  Recognizing opportunity and then seizing it were subsequent steps that felt in no way, easy.  Honestly, as much as manifesting and having all that we want in the world is ‘supposed’ to feel effortless?  I find that it often feels like work! 

Every step along the way may offer stress, it will beget more choices, we will feel resistance from ourselves in the form of fear and old stories that love to bend our ears.  Working through all of these, discerning which to dismiss and if any should be heeded–this is where our intuition comes into play.  As we choose, it becomes imperative to listen to our deep knowing—to our sage inner voice behind the fear-mongering ones that scream at us during stressful times.

Do you recall one of those fitness inventions that is a balancing ball with a platform ledge around the outside?  It looks like a rendition of the planet Saturn.  You place your feet on the platform ‘ring’ and work to stay balanced, as the ball wobbles and moves.  As you choose to lean in one direction or move an arm in another, you face the constant need to balance yourself on this contraption, engaging loads of muscles in the process.

Listening to our intuition is one way for us to regain balance when we feel wobbly in life.  As we move through life and change and growth, making decisions that aren’t always comfortable, we’ll find ourselves feeling wobbly, ungrounded and generally out of balance at times – trying to figure out which muscle to shift next.  We find that doing the things that have worked in the past, grounding through exercise, salt baths, journaling and meditating – these may no longer offer the same balancing benefits that they once did.  Listening to that intuitive voice that is telling you to go out and socialize, or to go tell a neighbor how you really feel, or to try some different foods – these options may be your new path to regaining balance.  Having the courage to make new, potentially balancing choices are key to living that elusive, fulfilled life.  Bravely listening to those inner and often higher sounding calls, to paint, stop, move, love – these are crevices where fulfilled lives gestate. 

Pausing to listen to our intuition is a great way to regain a sense of balance.  Remember that our intuition speaks to us in different voices.  Just as we grow, change and evolve, our intuitive voices grow with us.  They morph in support of who we are becoming and what we are choosing.  So if yours sound stern and grandmotherly when you are feeling nudged to meditate, be open to a quiet male voice who may guide you in new ways to play or work less.  Listening to our ever – changing voice of intuition is one way for us to regain our footing and step into more fulfillment as we negotiate the balancing ball that is our life.  Staying open to growth will help you to feel less rooted in old ways and more ready to grounding in new ways as the winds of winter change blow through your worlds.  I wish you all the best!

Types of Soul Connections

I’m re-posting this informative post on Soul Connections.  My attempt is not to be dogmatic but to offer exposure to perspectives that may resonate as your truths.

Enjoy the read!

Types of Soul Connections.

Messages of Love

Our Intuition — our higher selves — speak to us with messages of love.  1556457_491753797600147_1962839282_oAs I work with and guide people to and through their intuitive processes, the most constant question is – “How do I know it’s my intuition?”

That answer is many-fold, some of which I’ll cover here.

First off, it’s a faith walk.  We’re talking about the unseen realms of spirit here, the ethereal energies that sense-able but rarely detectable in many, proven fashions.

Second, if we are seeking proof we aren’t interested in truth.  Seriously.  Truth is another intangible that if you pay attention to how you discern it – we feel into truth.  This feels right.  This doesn’t feel quite right are the things that you may find yourself paying attention to as you are discerning truth around a situation, person or your intuition.

Third, confidence plays a huge role.  As I tell my students and mentees, 10% of cultivating and honoring our intuition is skills training and 90% is mindset shifting.  There are exercises – meditation, affirmations, afformations, psychic exercises, etc. that we can do to support our intuition; yet the biggest portion of our work is in our mindset.  How we we about that instant sense of knowing in situations, what judgments we express against ourselves and that others have expressed against our sensitivities, our own self-talk around whether we are ‘good enough’ to have accurate intuition, etc.

It’s a fine line dance that we do with this inner knowing and breeding the confidence that will fertilize it and questioning or dancing on the fear-based side of the line.

So I offer you this – our Intuition speaks to us lovingly!! It’s actually, the perfect way to cultivate itself as it doesn’t speak in those critical, doubtful ways that our analytical minds and emotions can at times.  If you are sensing loving nudges, playful messages on street signs and license plates, and anything feeling otherwise positive—its your intuition talking to you and through you.  If it presents as critical, negative, judgmental , fear-inducing– escort that shite to your mental door!  It is not, I repeat it is not your intuition or higher self speaking to you.

This month has been one of hibernation for me.  A constant though is my intuition speaking to me in loving ways.  What has rung through the whole month is the Love Boat theme – Love is in the Air by Tom Jones.  Yes, for real!  Remember to be gentle with yourself and do listen to the love of your spirit, your intuition, your higher selves.

I’ll leave you with two quotes from some of my favorite pacifists:

Smile, breathe, and go slowly.  -Thich Nhat Hanh

I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden. – Martin Luther King Jr.

And, love is in the air!

xo Angela


Happy fresh year!  We have so much optimism, collectively on the first day of the year.  This year’s start packs a doubly powerful punch with a New Moon at 6:14am EST.  This is the first time in nearly two decades that a new moon has occurred on the first day of the year.  Enjoy it as the springboard that it is!


New moons are a beautiful time to state intentions or wishes.  Beginning a new project?  Creating something anew?  This is an opportune time to do so.  The first 48 hours within the new moon is the juiciest time to launch your dreams.  State your dreams/wishes/intentions in writing, positively in the present tense…as if they are already happening.  Then take this list and send it off into the Universe either by fire or in water.  Both of these elements will ‘transform’ the state of the paper and its writings into another form and carry it forward into motion.


I’m spending a few hours in my home office today, because that is the crazy kind of stuff this Intuitive Consultant/Psychic Medium/Energy Healer likes to do!  If you are spending time on your creations today do so with optimism and expansiveness.  Be sure to incorporate balance in your day (no over-working allowed!) with pursuits that bring you joy, vibrancy and satisfaction.  It’s all about the love and that starts with self-love through balance.  Wishing you Love-Filled, Prosperous and Happy new years, all around!